Many people think when they make the decision to give their lives to Jesus, all of their frustrations will immediately go away. Granted, some do. But if you’ve lived for the Lord very long, you realize life struggles are no respecter of persons. If you’re wrestling with a lack of contentment, here are ten areas to check.
1. GET INTO THE WORD OF GOD DAILY.
God’s Word is the first and best way that we know Him. The answer to any of life’s circumstances can be answered in the scriptures -either by commandment, by example or in principle. Much of the time, our anxiety and discontentment comes from not knowing the Word of God.
“Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.” (Psalm 119:11)
2. PRAY EARLY, OFTEN AND IN THE HOLY GHOST.
The Lord never sleeps, but neither does the enemy of our souls. The earlier we begin our communication with our Heavenly Father, the more peace and contentment we’ll have throughout the day. We should bathe every moment of every day with prayer. There certainly are times that we need to be on our knees, pulling away from all distraction to seek His face. However, we should also develop the discipline of staying in communication with Him throughout our days. The more we involve Him in our daily thoughts, decisions and activities, the more content we will be.
“Pray without ceasing.“ (1 Thessalonians 5:17)
Let’s face it. Sometimes we are so overwhelmed, we run out of words. The needs are too great. The emotions are too big. The issues are too complicated. It’s in those times that we lean into the Spirit of God, and allow Him to intercede for us. As we pray in tongues, the Holy Ghost goes to that lost loved one, heals that grand baby, protects the traveler, softens hardened hearts and delivers the bound.
“Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.” (Romans 8:26)
3. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS.
While we are all part of the Body of Christ, we are individuals with our own personalities, giftings and callings. God never intended to have a Church full of clones. When He called you into His service, He had already factored in all your quirks, preferences and nuances that make you uniquely you.
“For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.“ (2 Corinthians 10:12)
4. SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE.
“Sometimes more isn’t better. It’s just more.” -Sabrina
This is one of my favorite quotes. It’s not scripture, but the principle definitely is. Things might bring happiness for a season, but not joy. We should begin systematically examining every area of our lives, and simplifying. That will look different for everyone. Most of us have far too much stuff, have far too busy of schedules, eat far too much in excess and our closets are packed way too full. It’s all just too much, and flesh always wants more.
“But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.” (1;Timothy 6:6-8)
I’m a wannabe minimalist. BECOMING MINIMALIST.COM is a great website to learn about the minimalist lifestyle!
5. DON’T OVER COMMIT.
This sounds much easier than it actually is. (I hear you snickering.) Still, our calendars are packed so full. Every minute of every day must be accounted for, especially if you’re in the ministry. We need to schedule downtime. I know that might sound ridiculous, but that’s probably the only way we’ll get the time. No matter how much pressure is applied to perform, we can only do so much well. When we spread ourselves too thin, then nothing gets done well. I’m not suggesting that you not fulfill your obligations. We only have this one life, and we need to use it working for the Kingdom. I am suggesting, however, that we set reasonable goals, and agree to reasonable levels of commitment.
“For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.” (Luke 14:28-30)
6. LIMIT NEWS & SOCIAL MEDIA.
Let’s face it. Neither the news, nor social media are reality. Most of the news we watch or listen to is biased, and slanted toward whatever group think the powers that be want us to believe. It’s best to find a non-biased news source, take a look once a day (or less) and leave the rest alone. The more news you ingest, the more depressed and anxious you are likely to be. Yes. Stay updated on world events, and commit yourself to prayer. You can’t help or change any of it in any other way.
On the other end of the emotional spectrum is social media. Here, we ingest just as much fake news as the actual news broadcasts. But it paints such a flowery, overly perfect compilation of people’s lives that we end up feeling like ours isn’t good enough. We need to remember the highlights we see on social media are only glimpses into people’s lives, and they rarely show the hard, painful and messy parts.
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
7. GET OUTSIDE REGULARLY, AND GET MOVING.
God created Adam and Eve, and placed them in a garden. That was our beginning. He could have created a high rise office building full of computer screens for us to thrive in, but He didn’t. Outside with the sun on our face, the ground under our feet and our hands full of earth, plants and animals. This is where we feel most alive. Our bodies weren’t designed to sit staring at a screen day after day. They were meant to move. I’m not talking about getting a gym membership. Just get your body moving, even if it’s a walk around the neighborhood or weeding the flower bed.
8. EAT HEALTHY MOST OF THE TIME.
Remember the saying we heard over and over as a child, You are what you eat? Turns out it’s true. Health begins in the gut. We live in a culture that glorifies gluttony, and we’re inundated with advertisements pushing all manner of unhealthy foods. In order to be content in our minds, we first half to be content in our bodies. I’m not talking about getting sexy. Im talking about getting healthy. Learn to live a fasted lifestyle in a healthy manner. Then eat responsibly during your eating windows. We must take care of our bodies. Not only are they the conduits we use to move the Gospel, they are also the temples of the Holy Ghost. God expects us to keep them in good repair.
”Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?” (1 Corinthians 3:16)
9. PRACTICE BEING THANKFUL.
One of the best ways I know to be content is to practice thanking God for what He has given us, and done for us. When we intentionally focus our minds on the goodness of God, everything we have becomes more valuable. My cabinets may not be packed full, but I have food to cook for supper today. Thank you, Lord, for this meal. You sustain me. I may not drive the sports car of my dreams, but I have a dependable car to get me to work. Thank you, Lord, for my dependable car. You provide for me. Keeping a Thankfulness Journal is a great way to practice this habit. List at least three things before going to sleep at night that you’re thankful for. Before long, your mind will begin to search out things to be thankful for, and you will find yourself much more content with what you have, as well as your circumstances.
“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
10. ENCOURAGE OTHERS.
Do you feel discouraged? Sad? Frustrated? Hopeless? That’s exactly where the enemy of your soul wants you. When I find myself in this mental place, I’ve learned the best way to get through it is to reach out to someone else. There’s something about ministering to others that brings healing and hope to our own hearts. Send the text. Write the letter. Make the call. Schedule the visit. Pray the prayer. Cook the meal. Even when you don’t feel like it. Be intentional.
IN CLOSING
This is a tried and true list from personal experience. I pray you find a place of contentment in your walk with God as you implement each one.
Warm Regards,
~Pat~